How do you get yoru self esteem back after an abusive or bad relationship?

Read up on abusive men. And, it will take a long time I'm sorry to say to get over it. But, eventually you will. But, definitely educate yourself on this subject matter as you might enter into another relationship like that one if you don't understand what to look out for in your next relationship. I think reading up on abusive men will help you recover faster too. Because your eyes will be opened to what he was doing.